Steffanie Rivers

As I stepped on stage last weekend to perform the room went silent. There were at least one hundred people in the room and all eyes were on me. I wrapped my hands around the pole as I’ve done countless times before. This was only my second time performing for an audience, but there are some things you’ve got to do alone.

I got encouragement from the crowd made up of mostly college students and married couples – all of them strangers. I took a deep breath and did what I came to do. And in the end my performance was one of the best. I received a trophy for my efforts and I set the Texas State record in my division three times. I don’t look like the typical female power lifter and if I was to tell you how much weight I can deadlight you probably wouldn’t believe it unless you witnessed me in action. So let’s just say if you were picking your fantasy power lifting team I would be your first round draft pick. Okay, second round, but we are talking fantasy, right?

The strongest man lifted 700 pounds and the oldest participant, 64, lifted more than 500. Including myself there only were three women in the competition because, I suspect, most men prefer to do the heavy lifting in their relationships. And because it’s a scientific fact that women are smarter, we don’t make a big deal out of his insecurities; it causes more trouble than it’s worth.

Still women like me have a tendency to cross their boundaries, because you never know how much you can do until you risk doing too much. And to all the men who are secure enough to love a woman who is smarter and possibly stronger than they are I say you are appreciated. No matter what they say about you.

Steffanie is a freelance journalist living in the Dallas, Texas metroplex. Send questions, comments or requests for speaking engagements to Steffanie at [email protected]. And see the video version of her journal at