Monica Cost

*I can’t believe I’m about to write about the Royal Wedding between Catherine “Kate” Middleton and Prince William of Wales being held this Friday, April at 11:00am. No worries, I have nothing bad to say about the seemingly lovely couple. I actually wish them all the best. However, it has been covered from every angle by every media outlet. There is nothing new I can tell you about what’s actually happening.

Here is why I’m troubled. Like many young couples whose nuptials are made in public, I am concerned for the future that will be expected of them. Many will expect them to last forever, instead of enjoying the little moments they share that feel like eternity. Kate’s dress size will be monitored more closely than the size of her heart and the good she may do in the world. Prince William will be chastised by the media for being seen alone too much. Much will be made of their facial expressions in personal moments that are caught on camera. Why will this happen?

It will happen because of our insatiable appetite for the fairytale and our intrigue with the fall from grace. It will happen because the production of the wedding, with over 2 billion people expected to watch, will paint a picture of a life with no troubles and plenty of resources to handle any that come. It will happen because of the Land of Make Believe.

When the expectation for perfection exists, there is no option, but failure. Not failure of the marriage, but an impossible feat of being everything that everyone expects you to be. I’m sure if Kate waits too long to have babies, there will be a special on 60 Minutes covering it. My prayer for them is that they have an amazingly supportive group of friends and family members. I pray that they find a way to stay grounded and to live in their truth everyday, despite how it looks to the world. Well, now I know there’s a limit to the truth we can see given their royal status.

Unfortunately, many couples get married with more hope riding on the continuation of the day’s festivities than the commitment to the work it will take to make it last. The wedding day is magical and should be experienced by every gushing bride who wants to; however it is not the sustenance of a marriage. That will actually require work, to say the least. For those who are up for it, life can be amazingly rewarding. I’ve not experienced it completely, but I’ve seen it.

I, for one, cannot wait until the “Royal Wedding” is over. I look forward to letting the new couple begin their lives as husband and wife in private. I wish for them a life of authenticity and truth nowhere near the Land of Make Believe.

Monica Cost is communications strategist, brand manager and respected corporate and motivational speaker. She is the President and Founder of Evidently Assured, a brand & talent management firm.  Email her at:  [email protected]. Follow her via Twitter: @monicacost and