Monica Cost

*From the time we’re born, we’re searching. As babies, we search for a familiar face in a mother, a father, a grandmother, a sibling, we search for acceptance. As children, we search for new knowledge, new things to play with…acceptance. As teenagers, we search for things to get into, ways to rebel, cool stuff…acceptance. As young adults, we search for what’s next, friendships, boys and girls, which universities to attend, trends…acceptance. In our twenties, we search for work, fun things to do, a boyfriend or girlfriend…acceptance.

We spend an inordinate amount of our time searching; but for what? We search for favorable reception, approval, favor, ourselves and you guessed it…acceptance. During our search we may give into peer pressure, try things that aren’t good for us, find ourselves, engage in relationships that are unhealthy, try new things, take jobs we don’t want, experience new trends, pretend to be someone other than we are, buy things we can’t afford and ultimately create a world that is more familiar to the world and foreign to our soul. Yes, I am, yet again, speaking of a piece of real estate in the “Land of Make Believe”.

I believe from the time we’re born, we’re searching for the perfect confluence of self and situation. We’re searching for the place where our authentic self, in all of our truth meets the acceptance of the world at large. A place where boys can like the color pink and not be assumed to be less of a boy, where quicker doesn’t mean smarter (because it actually doesn’t), where one’s passion has more weight than their position, where celebrities are held to the same standards as other human beings (so when they show their human side, we offer compassion and not conviction), where one’s insecurities are treated as areas of development and not points of shame, where “nice” guys finish when they’re supposed to given their talents and skills (not last), where a person can decide what they want life to look like and we support their truth because it is the place where they are most fulfilled.

We are born on the journey to “finding that place”. Along the way, life presents us with a variety of paths to get there. Some are smooth. Others are rough. Some take us to the peaks of life. Other through the valleys. Along the way to that place, there will be other journeymen also looking for “that place”. Some will will support us, others will try to trip us up. Assess and recover, but keep traveling to “your” place.

The place you envisioned for yourself is real. While it may sometimes feel like you are alone in the journey, rest assured you are not. We’re all traveling there. Some are moving quickly, some are moving slow and some are stuck.

Find your truth. Take your own personal journey to “finding that place”.

See you on the road. Live your truth.

Monica Cost is communications strategist, brand manager and respected corporate and motivational speaker. She is the President and Founder of Evidently Assured, a communications and brand management firm.  Email her at:  [email protected]. Follow her via Twitter: @monicacost and