*A few weeks ago, a book was released titled: “30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 30.”

Now we all know that for both men and women the age of 30 is something that’s both special but frightening for most.

Our partners at Essence decided to not only cheer you up a bit, but let you know what you should have by that age.

Here are 5 of the things on the list out of 30:

1. A song that immediately lifts her spirits or takes her back to a special, stress-free time, no matter where she is

2. A polite, diplomatic way of putting someone in check and a taste of sister girl attitude when diplomacy just won’t cut it

3. A favorite moisturizer, a favorite hair product and a favorite recipe in case she has to cook something impressive (or a favorite bakery or restaurant to pick it up from)

4. A tool set, a car jack and a refusal to be anybody’s damsel in distress

5. The willingness and resolve to let it go, whatever “it” is

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