All in due time.
Time heals all wounds.
Take time to smell the roses.
There’s no time like the present.
These time honored and shall I say time worn time worn adages have been uttered – well – time after time.
My pointed focus on time is not random. It’s that time. I just put another candle on the birthday cake. And every time I add another candle to the cake, it gives me pause especially when the candles begin to look crowded on the surface of the ever-shrinking 8-inch-round.
Birthdays have a way of making people observe time. Some would say they have a way of compelling folks to confront time. No matter what position you hold when you have your annual solar return, time seems to matter and time is personified in an ethereal way even if just for a protracted moment.
The adages about time are ones I’ve heard my entire life. Primarily from the caring parents and elders that raised me who espoused the virtues and vitriol of time from their vantage.
Time waits for no one. I had my day of reckoning in embracing this truth. Thinking an opportunity will be there when you are ready to take advantage of it is too often a fallacy. For me it was an offense of my youth. A very benevolent radio personality taught me that lesson thirty years ago when she rescinded a mentorship offer I took too long to respond to – actually it was a year. It was a rigorous program and I wanted to play a little bit more before I hunkered down and got serious. When I reconnected with her she simply said, “Time waits for no one. Not even you. That opportunity no longer exists.”
All in due time. The time we spend in working hard, investing in ourselves and in others is never for naught. It sometimes seems that way. We never know when the long awaited opportunity will ensue, when the payoff will occur, when the connection will be made or the spark will be lit. Time has proven that the rewards may not be immediate but they are imminent when the arc of time has been laden with perseverance and faith. Perhaps the bottom line here is patience, a quality I have learned from Mother Time.
Time heals all wounds. In my core I believe this. In actuality, this is still a work in progress but nonetheless, progress is being made. As time takes me further from the precipice of some of my deepest disappointments and most painful wounds, the scars have faded with the passage of time. Some are completely invisible which I am grateful for. Others are still fading ever slowly, but they are fading.
Take time to smell the roses. When I was raising my sons it was almost frenetic. The homework, parent teacher conferences, daycare issues, tennis lessons, basketball practice, science projects, visits to the principal’s office and the list goes. My alpha type disposition was laser focused on getting things done. Checking off lists and completing tasks and I did all that and more. But with the hindsight of time I now realize I missed lingering in so many precious moments with my sons that I can never revisit. Today I stop and appreciate special moments when they occur and I take my time.
There is no time like the present. Last year when my Dad was gravely ill, I seized time. I lived in it moment by moment. I didn’t look behind me or in front of me I only lived in the moment that was given to me. Time seemed uncertain but it stood certainly still. Time was a gift at that point and I appreciated every moment it gave me to spend with my Dad talking to him and comforting him until he made his transition.
Each birthday affirms my respect, value and regard for time. It is gift and not a commodity to be wasted, pilfered or squandered. Time is not a renewable resource. It is finite. It’s time to honor time while there is time.
Veronica Hendrix is a syndicated columnist and feature writer whose work has covered the span of the human continuum – from clinical trials of male contraceptives, to the gang violence. She is the owner of Bromont Avenue Foods. She is the author of “Red Velvet Gourmet Spice Rub and Seasoning Heart Healthy Recipes.” Visit http://bromontavefoods.com for more information. For comments, interviews, speaking engagements or moderator requests please send an email to [email protected].