jay z (stop solange)

*Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve probably already heard that Solange Knowles aggressively attacked her brother-in-law Jay-Z as Beyoncé looked on without intervening at all. This is a great opportunity to segue into discussing men who endure abusive relationships.

We often hear stories of domestic abuse women have been subjected to, (see our latest article on how to escape a violent relationship), but what about the men?  Men, do you find your lady wearing the pants in your relationship a little too much? Are you always being told that you can’t do anything right?  Are you constantly being checked up on? Are you being made to ‘pay’ for going out with your friends or doing anything on your own away from her?  If you answered “yes” to any of these or more, you may very well be in an emotionally abusive relationship.

Here is a list of some of the behaviors compiled by the hotline which they consider red flags for emotional abuse in a relationship.

  • Telling you that you can never do anything right
  • Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members
  • Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs
  • Controlling every penny spent in the household
  • Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do
  • Preventing you from making your own decisions
  • Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children

According to a report released by the NISVS, “…48.8 percent, of men in the United States have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime.”  That’s nearly half the men in the U.S!  And of these men, more than half of these experiences were about being kept track of by their partner who was demanding to know his whereabouts.  Stalker!!!  Scary, right?

Now before you pack your bags and trip out to some isolated “men only” island, let’s add some common sense here to the mix.  Some of these behaviors are isolated and can be learned from a young age.

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