*As a woman, wouldn’t you rather be the subject instead of the object when it comes to sex? Wouldn’t you prefer to set your own tone, tell your own tales, and be in control of the action rather than be controlled by it?
If you answered “yes” (and we’re sure a multitudinous number of you did!), your call has been answered, your cry has been heard.
In the new documentary, “Subjectified, nine young women ages 19 to 28, share their stories, helming their sexual narratives and framing them as they see fit. They are black, white, Latina, virgins, sexual abuse victims, lesbians, or bearers of community-given titles such as “slut” or “prude.” But what all of the women have in common, is the willingness to share some of the most intimate portions of their sexual lives.
In an exclusive interview with theGrio, the film’s creator, Melissa Tapper Goldman said she purposely set out to get a diverse array of women for the project. “My top priority was that I wanted to take some of the tropes of women and sexuality and break them down and humanize them,” said Goldman.
Women exploring their sexuality openly
Subjectified is a feminist, sex positive film, but as many women of color have come to realize over the years, the feminist movement is not always inclusive of our voices. The intersectionality of race, class, gender and other important factors can often be left out in favor of a singular white, female, heterosexual feminist perspective.
“Women’s voices are silenced. Women of color are even more silenced and marginalized. Baked into the project’s DNA is [the goal] to give a platform to voices that are not usually heard,” said Goldman, who is Jewish and considers herself to be an ally to the marginalized.
In New York City recently bell hooks, a feminist scholar, spoke of the role of allies as it relates to men in feminism specifically.
“I often question the use of the word ally. I think that sometimes it’s standing on their own beliefs, which are anti-patriarchal or anti-sexist. They are not required to be anybody’s ally. They are on their frontline in the same way that I’m on my frontline,” said hooks.
hooks may have been talking about male allies in feminism, yet the same could be said of white women and women of color. To her credit, Goldman is very candid about her ability to tell certain stories.
“I went into all of the interviews with a real humility about my capacity to reach people and understand where they were coming from. I tried to let the interviewees take control of the conversation and let their stories be their own, but at the same time I do have to work on how I recognize my own privilege,” Goldman concluded.
Read more about “Subjectified” on theGrio.
Visit the Official Website for “Subjectified,“ where you can purchase the DVD